The relation between Husband & Wife

Marriage is more than a social contract or emotional relationship.its a begining of a family and society..If we have strong social and moral values in family environment then we can build a strong society as well.thats why when a person get married he has a bundle of reponsibilities..We devide these responsibilities between two persons..The husband and the wife Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar: The Prophet said, "Everyone of you is a guardian and everyone of you is responsible (for his wards). A ruler is a guardian
and is responsible(for his subjects); a man is a guardian of his family and responsible (for them); a wife is a guardian of
her husband's house and she is responsible (for it), a slave is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible (for
that). Beware! All of you are guardians and are responsible (for your wards)." (Volume 7, Book 62, Number 116,sahi al bukhari)
A wife shuould take care of her children and the wealth of her husband and guard her modesty as well.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at
home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on
charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward."
(Volume 7, Book 62, Number 123, sahi al bukhari)
And a husband should be patient with his wife
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
The Prophet said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to
take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try
to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women.
(Volume 7, Book 62, Number 114,sahi al bukhari)
Allah made a beautiful relation between husband and wife and this relation got spoiled when one or both of them didnot act
according to Allah's orders.How can we make this relationship peaceful and lovely?????
husband and wife should guard their modesty and the best way Quran tells us..
Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for
them: And God is well acquainted with all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their
beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and
not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons,
their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess,
or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not
strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards God,
that ye may attain Bliss.
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even keep your heart clean from sinful thoughts (like to see or think about a na mehram..or get pleasure from sinful
thoughts)
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam' (minor sins) than what Abu Huraira 'narrated from the Prophet who said "Allah has
written for Adam's son his share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a
forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires
are the adultery of heart and the private parts testify
all this or deny it."
(Volume 8, Book 74, Number 260,sahi al bukhari)
Try to ignore shortcomings of each other.....Admire good habbits of each other.....Try to be patient with each other......and
make dua that May Allah help us to make our relation better according o islamic teachings and keep us away from satan's
path..Ameen Thumma ameen