Friday, November 28, 2008

The relation between Husband & Wife

Marriage is more than a social contract or emotional relationship.its a begining of a family and society..If we have strong social and moral values in family environment then we can build a strong society as well.thats why when a person get married he has a bundle of reponsibilities..We devide these responsibilities between two persons..The husband and the wife Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar: The Prophet said, "Everyone of you is a guardian and everyone of you is responsible (for his wards). A ruler is a guardian
and is responsible(for his subjects); a man is a guardian of his family and responsible (for them); a wife is a guardian of
her husband's house and she is responsible (for it), a slave is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible (for
that). Beware! All of you are guardians and are responsible (for your wards)." (Volume 7, Book 62, Number 116,sahi al bukhari)
A wife shuould take care of her children and the wealth of her husband and guard her modesty as well.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at
home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on
charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward."
(Volume 7, Book 62, Number 123, sahi al bukhari)
And a husband should be patient with his wife
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
The Prophet said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to
take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try
to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women.
(Volume 7, Book 62, Number 114,sahi al bukhari)
Allah made a beautiful relation between husband and wife and this relation got spoiled when one or both of them didnot act
according to Allah's orders.How can we make this relationship peaceful and lovely?????
husband and wife should guard their modesty and the best way Quran tells us..
Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for
them: And God is well acquainted with all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their
beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and
not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons,
their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess,
or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not
strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards God,
that ye may attain Bliss.
(024.030-031)
even keep your heart clean from sinful thoughts (like to see or think about a na mehram..or get pleasure from sinful
thoughts)
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:
I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam' (minor sins) than what Abu Huraira 'narrated from the Prophet who said "Allah has
written for Adam's son his share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a
forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires

are the adultery of heart and the private parts testify
all this or deny it."
(Volume 8, Book 74, Number 260,sahi al bukhari)
Try to ignore shortcomings of each other.....Admire good habbits of each other.....Try to be patient with each other......and
make dua that May Allah help us to make our relation better according o islamic teachings and keep us away from satan's
path..Ameen Thumma ameen

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Saqoot-e-Baghdad Tareekh k jharokon se

Abbasi hakoomat ka akhri fermanrawa Abu Ahmad Abdullah bin mustansar tha jo k apne laqab Musta'sam billah k naam se mash'hoor huwa.Agarchay ye tab'an naik fitrat tha magar tabiat ka kamzor raey ka kacha aur amoor-e-mumlookat se nawaqif aur bayraub tha.ilm-e-din aur mutala ka zauq kam rakhta tha.us k masahib aur hashia nasheen bhi adna derjay k jahil awam thay.Albatta us ka wazir Moeid-ud-din ibn-e-Alqami bara aqil aur ferzana tha.wo shia tha aur naik teenat na tha..Musta'sam ki na ahli k sabab wo us per hawi hota gaya..ibn-e-alqami Baghdad mai Alvi khilafat qaim kerna chahta tha is wajah se us ne shion k dil mai hakoomat k khilaf bughz lanay k liay kuch shion ka qatal kerwa diya.aur ilzam sunnion per dher diya shion ne apna badla sunnion se lia...aur youn kertay kertay mulk mai shia sunni ikhltalafat zor pakar gaye.Is khana jangi se hakoomat ka sara nizam bigar gaya aur Abbasi hakoomat ki amdani itni ghat gai k us ko apnay masarif pooray kenay mushkil ho gaye..Tab ibn-e-alqami ne Mustasam ko mashwara diya k ye jo itni bari fauj hakoomat paal rahi hai ye sirf hakoomat k ikhrajat berha rahi hai lehaza is ko kam kerna chahiye..Mustasam ne us k mashwaray per fauj ka ek bara hissa berkhawast ker diya..aur baqi fauj aur doosray ummal-e-hakoomat ki tankhawahon k masarif tajiron ahl-e-herfa aur kashtkaron per daal diye.is se shorish aur berh gai..doosri teraf shia ne sunion se ibn-e-alqami k bal per ziadti shuroo ker di.Mustasam ko ye baat nagawar guzri us ne apne beton ko bhaij ker kerkh ka mohalla jahan shia abad thay lutwa dia..is waqiay k baad ibn-e-alqami k dil mai alvi khilafat qaim kernay ka irada mazboot huwa..us ne baqi fauj Mustasam ko ye itminan dilwa ker hatwa di k is se jo rupiya bachay ga wo tatarion ki mudafiat k doosray intezamat mai kam aye ga.

Tareekh mai mukhtalif hawalay miltay hain k ibn-e-alqami ne kaisay Halakoo khan ko Baghdad per hamlay k liay Amadah kia.Lakin qareen-e-qayas yahi hai k aisa Naseer-ud-din Toosi ki badolat mumkin huwa jo k mashoor shia Alim,falsafi aur riyazi daan tha.Halakoo khan baghdad per haath dalnay se derta tha kyun k baghdad ko musalmanon ki deeni hakoomat ki hasiat hasil thi.un ko is se mazhabi aqeedat thi is per haath dalnay se duniya-e-islam k bigarnay ka andesha tha..saath saath is k mazhabi taqadus ki wajah se khud Halakoo derta tha k kahin koi museebat na nazil ho jaey..ibn-e-alqami ki khushqismati k Toosi ko Halakoo Khan k derbaar mai bara rasookh hasil tha.Halakoo us ki bohat izzat kerta tha aur us ki her baat manta tha.ibn-e-alqami ne us se khat-o-kitabat ki aur us ne Halakoo khan ko Baghdad per hamlay k liay amadah kia..665 hijri mai Halakoo ne Baghdad per fauj kashi ker di..fauj to pehley hi alag ho chuki thi baqi manda fauj k saath ameer-e-devdaar ne khoob muqabala kia.aur dushman fauj ko paspa ker diya.phir tatarion ne doosra zordaar hamla kia.Abbasi fauj is ki taab na la saki aur Baghdad ki teraf paspa ho gayee..usi waqt Dajla ka ek band toot gaya aur rastay mai pani hail ho gaya tatarion ne peecha ker k poori fauj teh-o-teigh ker di..tatarion ne Baghdad ka mohasara ker lia.Ibn-e-alqami ye keh ker Baghdad k tamam ulama,fuqaha,mudarasin-o-akabarin aur mustasam ko saath le gay k un ko kuch na kaha jaey ga.Halakoo Mustasam ko khilfat per berqarar rakhay ga aur apni larki ki shadi us k betay abu bakr se keray ga.ye sab ek saath qatal ker diye gaye..is k baad wehshi tatari Baghdad mai ghus gaye aur kai din tak qatl-e-aam kertay rahe aurton aur bachon ko bhi na chora..abadi khatam ker k baghdad ko 40 din tak loot'tay rahe. Abbasi kutab khanay ki tamam kutab jo sadion ka sermaya thin un ko Dajla ma dabo diya yahan tak k dajla ka pani siyah per gaya. maqtoolin ki tadad ka andaza 16 lakh tha..Ibn-e-alqmi ne tatrion ko Alvi hakoomat qaim kernay per amada kerna chaha per kamyaabi na huwi..aur us ko namak harami k silay mai siwaye zillat-o- ruswai k kuch haath na aya..chand hi dinon mai wo bhi mer gaya..aaaaaaah

Is ghar ko aag lag gayee ghar k chiragh se..

jo qaumein apni tareekh se sabaq hasil nahi kertin un ka anjam is se badter huwa kerta hai.